Let’s talk about gratitude. More importantly, let’s talk about finding gratitude.
Finding something to be grateful for can be particularly difficult when you’re looking at your ex, considering your history, going through a divorce, learning to co-parent, or struggling to come to terms with any of the above. In fact, these are probably the most challenging circumstances in which to be thankful.
I believe that forgiveness is key, and I think we all want to forgive, be forgiven, and be at peace. And somewhere in there, I think, at least on an intellectual level and on a level of the mind, we can all agree and that how we're living our life today will directly impact our life tomorrow. Therefore, our future happiness and peace depend largely on what we do, how we live, and the choices we make today. Choosing gratitude today can help you unlock the happier, more peaceful life you want, even amid challenging family circumstances like divorce. Growing in gratitude is long, hard work, but there are a few steps you can take to overcome the powerful negative emotions you are feeling and fight for the peace you desire:
Tips for Choosing Gratitude Amid Tough Relationships
Choosing gratitude today can help you unlock the happier, more peaceful life you want, even amid challenging family circumstances like divorce. Growing in gratitude is long, hard work, but there are a few steps you can take to overcome the powerful negative emotions you are feeling and fight for the peace you desire:
- Recall an incident. Bring to your mind an argument, a hurtful word that was said, or whatever is spinning around in your mind and heart. There are undoubtedly many things you could call to mind, but just pick one.
- Relive it and recognize your role. Be careful not to dive in and select the absolute worst argument or offense in your relationship, but go back to a hurtful or upsetting experience and attempt to relive it in your mind, watching it play out from an objective perspective and do your best to identify the role you played. This can help you learn to see your painful memories differently and with fresh honesty.
- Choose to hold on to a better perspective. Once you get honest, recognize your role in the difficult circumstance at hand, and learn to see it through the lens of what’s happening rather than through the lens of your own hurt, you’re going to see your painful memories in a different light. You may even see how the things that are happening can be good for you in the long run.
- Choose gratitude. As you’re working on adopting a new perspective on your frustrations and hurts, this is the point where gratitude becomes possible and highly beneficial. This is where you’re going to be able to grow, heal, and even find some forgiveness. Let yourself and the other person off the hook and stop skipping the record. This will allow you to avoid spending your life holding onto hostility.
If you can challenge yourself to go back to these things that are haunting you and stealing your life, stealing your happiness, and stealing your peace, and look at them from a different place, I think you're going to see the picture unfold differently. You're going to start to see a different tale. And instead of seeing a tale of misfortune, you can begin to see how your present circumstances are a gift.
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